Any healthy relationship has its ups and downs, including more or less intense discussions. Although arguing about everything is a sign that something is wrong, anyone who says that they have never argued with their partner is either lying or does not know that their relationship is going astray. The way we deal with these situations will determine the future of our relationship and show the couple that we are capable of admitting mistakes.
Trying to avoid all arguments at all costs is the biggest mistake people make. Sometimes we have to express our opinions and problems. And if anyone is afraid to speak, a bad sign. If we are assertive and pragmatic, the discussions will be civil and calm. For example, when we let the other person speak without interrupting them and they let us do the same, we all win. The key and the difficult thing is having the confidence to say: “we have to talk.”
When we let the arguments get out of hand, there is less chance of reaching an amicable solution and our partner will be afraid to want to talk in the future. It shows our worst, and does us no justice.
Once the discussion is over, you have to forget and move on. After the insults and yelling, it is important to go out, calm down and realize that the discussion is already over, no matter what the ending was. We must also make it clear to our partner that we still love her. The relationship will have weathered a storm and will be stronger.
Arguments, unfortunately, are inevitable. It’s about acknowledging that there is something that needs to be said out loud, reaching an agreement and moving on. It is not about avoiding or forgetting them the second.